It’s true.
Brianna and her boys. Two go whom are straight. Can you guess which two?
The beautiful Sarah and Julie.
Love.
LGBT Youth Line!
Gay Androids!
Puppy.
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"True the Black woman did the housework, the drudgery; True she reared the children, often alone, but she did all of that while occupying a place on the job market, a place her mate could not get or which his pride would not let him accept. And she had nothing to fall back on: Not maleness, not whiteness, not lady hood, not anything. And out of the profound desolation of her reality she may very well have invented herself."
Not the sin, but the experience of being fully confident in the person that you are inside. Because your love is not shameful, your kisses are not deadly, and your touch is not poisonous. We are, in this day and age, the only people who can bring each other back to life with a kiss or a touch… we keep one another back from the edge with our love.
And so I wish you all endless amounts of love. I want it to fill you up and bring you to tears when you need them most.
Toronto Pride has come to a close, but it doesn’t mean the pride stops.
I love you all. Happy lives.
Kai
My entire body is in pain.
Last night I attended my good friend Mona’s surprise Graduation party. I couldn’t stick around because I had to run downtown and photograph my friend’s burlesque show at Lee’s Palace. After that I had to head over to Buddies and take photos for club night. Afterwards I stuck around and danced with some friends. And for those of you who don’t know: I really, really like to dance.
Suffice it to say, I got home at 4 and I had to take a shower immediately because I was completely covered in spilt drinks, sweat and god knows what else. Kidding, it wasn’t that kind of club.
Here are some photos from last night. I hope you’re all having a great weekend, and if you’ve already celebrated Pride or haven’t yet, I hope it was/will be amazing!!!!
Betti and Mona
Patastrophic Sexapeel at Boylesque TO’s “O’Manada” event
Joel, Meg and Greg
Miss Conception
I forget her name, but she was fantastic.
So was she.
Mike and Paul
Paul, Mike, Erick, Dan, Jon, Greg and Brad down below.
You are ALL Beautiful.
Love yourself, be true to yourself and never forget that you have a voice.
Sincerely,
Kai
So I’ve been super busy running around. I live in the burbs and have to commute downtown so that eats up a lot of my time. Despite this, it’s nice to be back in the city. I will blog and write more consistently when all the Gay kerfuffle has calmed down.
In the meantime, check out some awesome, queer, funny, inspirational and friendly blogs. All managed by extraordinarily beautiful people.
As well, I invite you all to come to Toronto to hang out with me.
We’ll take pretty pictures and drink and have a merry time. We may even party till 4 am. Or go crazy, get blackout drunk and wake up in an alley. With track marks between your toes and condoms in your hair. It’ll be glam.
So come.
To the T.Dot.
DO IT.
NOW.
okayloveyoubyebye
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Do you think it was this promotional video from Toronto Tourism in partnership with Pride Toronto that was the final straw for the writer to write what he posted. http://www.torontolife.com/daily/informer/the-harrowing-present/2011/06/06/pride-panders-to-ancient-gay-stereotypes-loses-touch-with-the-21st-century-man-and-woman/ So much for that it gets better lie. It just gets more complicated. Being gay today is not easy. Every gay guy I know is looking for love because the gay guys that are available are not good enough. They have to be straight equivalent, hot, handsome and that's what everyone promotes and I see you do it in your other blog. No one has love for the non masculine gay guy. Its the butch, manly guys. Just look at any tumblr gay guy blog. Its filled to the core with straight guys. I am beginning to think maybe we are all to blame. I saw the video a few days ago and it’s sort of silly. I haven’t decided whether or not it’s borderline satirical or just plain stupid. I mean, what the trainer is doing is true—a bunch of gyms out there have Pride promotions for getting in shape to have the “Best Pride Body” ever! The thing with stereotypes is that they are both useful and useless. But I do disagree with your opinion on the whole it get’s better thing. I believe that is is true, to an extent. It CAN get better—because it all depends on your own ability to manifest your own definition of happiness. The gay guys who are out there looking for the straight equivalent of a gay guy are stupid. Good luck. If you want a straight equivalent, you better be a straight equivalent yourself. We can chalk it up to some repressed self-hatred, but at the same time it could just be an attraction that has been created from the tirelessly offensive ads created for gay men. At the same time, I see a lot of feminine gay guys who date other feminine gay guys and they are the happiest people in the world. Gay men are so filled with subtle, repressed self-hating feelings that they don’t even know exist, it makes it impossible to find someone who can deal with their bullshit. I’m a feminine gay guy, and sometimes I camp it up because it’s fun for me. I like being campy. I do theatre, I go see theatre, I break out into songs from musicals, I cry when Rachel Berry cries and I tear up when an X-Men learns how to control their power. I’m a big sissy faggot and damn proud. Because it takes more courage to be a gay femme than it will ever be to be a passing, butch, masculine gay man. That is one thing that is constantly overlooked. So if that video has done one thing, it has reminded us that those very stereotypes are the stereotypes that gay men, lesbians, and heterosexuals use to define and make fun of each other. Hey, at least they included a Bear who looks like Bear, an actual lesbian, and one minority. It has more diversity in it then all of the gay television shows out there. |
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RE: Dawn of A New Gay I know many people are offended, but there are many guys like him. He's just the first one to write an article, but they do exists, and you see them on dating sites a lot. Now I feel there is this dislike of anything non masculine or too gay, when they should be honoring those out and brave fem guys who lead the fight and still are so they can enjoy the respect and freedoms. He did have good points though about pride and how its lost its true calling but become more corporate. Have you seen this btw http://www.torontolife.com/daily/informer/the-harrowing-present/2011/06/06/pride-panders-to-ancient-gay-stereotypes-loses-touch-with-the-21st-century-man-and-woman/ Yes, they do exist. I’ve met them. I see them at parties spouting their mouth off. But here’s the thing: these guys are so “over it all” that they want to disassociate themselves from everything “gay”, because they feel it doesn’t represent them correctly. So as opposed to changing the representation of gay men, they have decided to go on this self-righteous rant in order to justify their own choices for being jerks. Because the truth is, as my friend Chaya said: “they’re saying that they’re just “dudes” and their gayness happens to be incidental to who they are but they’re disavowing the fact that “just dudes” have a VAST array of preferences and tastes, regardless of whether they sleep with men or women or both. Some dudes like Kylie. Some dudes like metal. Some dudes like indie rock. Some dudes like the King West clubs, and some dudes like the hipster hole in the walls. So they’re basically defining themselves against a weirdo binary/division/differentiation thingy that doesn’t even exist. It’s like NEWSFLASH - the straight people who don’t like big flashy Circa-esque clubs don’t define themselves as “POST-HETERO.” As for Pride, yes, it has become a tourism event which attracts many tourists to the city—but if I’m going to justify Pride and its importance, it is that it stands as a symbol for all the little trans, lesbians, gays and genderqueer kids out there that acceptance is OUT THERE SOMEWHERE. Trashing a political and significant civil-rights event because it now relies on corporate investments to run the damn thing is pretty much saying “FUCK YOU” to its entire inception and history. |
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mrgolightly: A punk stops during a gay pride parade to allow a mesmerized child to touch his jacket spikes.
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